Dangers of having having children outside marriage

 You may be probably Wondering why? I have decided to talk about this issue of siring children outside wedlock ,is it the right thing to do? Is it normal? Or just a mistake? For me there is no valid answer here. Because some things sound more dangerous than what we think. 

Marriage is a good thing , getting children too is a blessing for a happy family and it's every couple desire to make a stable family with children of their own .However there are some secret missions that are never discussed on family tables yet they are happening ,or should we just sit and watch, ignore the reality that we both know and pretend we don't ....

Why is it then dangerous for a man or a woman in marriage to have children outside wedlock and in secret. As much as a child is a blessing ,some may not and may cause more harm than good if things are blown up one day and an amicable resolution is failed 

Having a child outside marriage posses the following dangers;

Feeling of insecurities that your partner will discover that you have another child outside marriage which may lead to violence.

Always under pressure and divided attention on which side of your marriage to be , You may be feeling that where your ghost child is, is better than where you are.

You denie your other child parental care ,love and and upbringing ,the other child has to grow away from you because you cannot be available in both places.

You will never trust your other partner too, this is because the same way you achieved to conceal the secret for a long time without being discovered and so you have insecurities that your partner too has deep secret that  you don't know about.

You will loss trust , and respect of your lover once they discover that you have other children outside marriage